I'm happiest when the people I love are happy.
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How do people sleep at night knowing what they've done to others?
Throughout last year, a 'friend' of mine (no longer) borrowed a rather large sum of money from me and together with with his story, he created a coat of lies, deceit and false promises to return the
loan back on the day of pay day.
Months passed, and I gave this person the benefit of the doubt, reassuring myself that it does take time to compile that amount.
Things happened in between, and friendship ties got severed.
A year later, still no news, no return, no replies.
A good friend of mine advised me to file County Court Charges against this person.
And for a while, I seriously thought about it.
Then I thought, fuck it.
I don't know why, maybe I was scared to make things uglier,
or the fact that we were friends once put a soft spot in my heart.
Yes, I wanted justice.
But then an eye for an eye makes the world blind.
A large part of me thought why get so bitter over money?
Yes, the sum was large enough for a person in Brighton to pay his/her rent, bills and have leftover for a little bit of grocery. Yes, it frustrates and hurts me to think I worked for it for 100 hours for the whole month straight only to have it flushed down the drain. Yes, I felt betrayed because I trusted this friend.
But I have since then kept working and made up for that amount anyway.
And all my life I always remember the principle my dad and I used to seriously joke about
'Don't worry. Money can always be made.
The more you think about money the more white hair you'll grow.'
(I love you paps for this!)
Money, is after all the root of all evil.
People get greedy, selfish and vicious over money.
People do stupid things for money.
People kill over money.
And I don't want to end up being one of these people.
I don't know what mixed moral values this story is supposed to have.
Don't trust your friends? Hang on tight to your belongings? Forgive those who mess you up?
Be really cautious with the people around you?
Well I suppose for me personally, the moral is to be moderately cautious with whom I trust
but most importantly, to not cling on to material things too much.
There are much bigger things out there to look forward to that does not involve stressing over little gold coins and 'Money can always be made'.
For this particular person,
I just wish him well and hope that he will one day realise what he has done.
How do people sleep at night knowing what they've done to others?
Throughout last year, a 'friend' of mine (no longer) borrowed a rather large sum of money from me and together with with his story, he created a coat of lies, deceit and false promises to return the
loan back on the day of pay day.
Months passed, and I gave this person the benefit of the doubt, reassuring myself that it does take time to compile that amount.
Things happened in between, and friendship ties got severed.
A year later, still no news, no return, no replies.
A good friend of mine advised me to file County Court Charges against this person.
And for a while, I seriously thought about it.
Then I thought, fuck it.
I don't know why, maybe I was scared to make things uglier,
or the fact that we were friends once put a soft spot in my heart.
Yes, I wanted justice.
But then an eye for an eye makes the world blind.
A large part of me thought why get so bitter over money?
Yes, the sum was large enough for a person in Brighton to pay his/her rent, bills and have leftover for a little bit of grocery. Yes, it frustrates and hurts me to think I worked for it for 100 hours for the whole month straight only to have it flushed down the drain. Yes, I felt betrayed because I trusted this friend.
But I have since then kept working and made up for that amount anyway.
And all my life I always remember the principle my dad and I used to seriously joke about
'Don't worry. Money can always be made.
The more you think about money the more white hair you'll grow.'
(I love you paps for this!)
Money, is after all the root of all evil.
People get greedy, selfish and vicious over money.
People do stupid things for money.
People kill over money.
And I don't want to end up being one of these people.
I don't know what mixed moral values this story is supposed to have.
Don't trust your friends? Hang on tight to your belongings? Forgive those who mess you up?
Be really cautious with the people around you?
Well I suppose for me personally, the moral is to be moderately cautious with whom I trust
but most importantly, to not cling on to material things too much.
There are much bigger things out there to look forward to that does not involve stressing over little gold coins and 'Money can always be made'.
For this particular person,
I just wish him well and hope that he will one day realise what he has done.
"but most importantly, to not cling on to material things too much"
ReplyDelete^ yessss. Something I've learned as well. T-T Nothing will stay with you in the grave, no material wealth, no money, NONE. Things that I used to get attached to; clothing, old trinkets with "sentimental value"... all not worth holding on to. Treasure them while they're there, but just as easily let them go. There are far more valuable things in life.
Mungkin duit tu memang "rezeki" dia. Let him have it and allow yourself to be content with what happened. I am sure there are consequences on his and your side, and hopefully he gets what he deserves.
Chin up! :)
It's so true that all the stuff in this world cant be taken with you when you're long gone.I guess coz we're living in a world thats getting more money crazy and materialistic everyday nobody remembers this.
ReplyDeleteIt's also funny how we always confuse the object to be the sentimental value and memory but actually, sentiments and memories are all in our mind and the object is just an object. Easier said than done though I don't think I can easily let go of my favourite belongings from childhood :P
Yes I think I've let it go, there is no point getting angry over it :)